For our third baby we have decided on a homebirth for several reasons-Hospital births have only become the norm in the last 2 generations around the 1950's. Homebirthing is less invasive, you have more freedom and better prenatal care. Even with good insurance, homebirthing is very cost effective.These reasons aside, the primary reason we decided to homebirth is because of the way our last hospital birth progressed.
. Allow me to explain. I went into the hospital midmorning having experienced mild contractions for a few hours. I have fast deliveries and wanted to make sure I was there in time! When I got there, I was 5 cm dilated and progressing. I was admitted and labored for a few hours standing or in the bath tub because of back labor.
My doctor came in to check on me but the visit was brief. He was busy delivering another baby. In fact, between Friday night and Saturday morning he had delivered 7 babies. I had the most amazing nurse who was my advocate, but saw VERY little of the doctor.
I only labored a few hours before I was ready to push. The nurse told me not to push as the doctor was not available. Umm.... what??!?!?! After a while we heard her say,"This girl has to push and it will go fast." A resident doctor came in to the room because my doctor was still with someone else. The first thing the resident doctor asked was if I could get back up on the bed. (I was still standing because it felt better due to the back labor.) Being the compliant girl I am, I tried until I had a contraction. My family in the room say I shot up off the bed as if I was not 9 months pregnant and in labor. I told the doctor I couldn't lay down. Back labor was very painful and so much more painful in bed.
After a short time, my doctor came in the room. Again, I was asked if could get up on the bed. I probably gave him the a very dirty look! Much to the doctor's objections, I had my daughter squatting beside the bed. I pushed for 5 minutes and she entered this world at a very chubby 9lbs 3oz and 20".
Now, that doesn't seem like a horrible story but the more I think about it, the more I disliked than liked:
1. I would like a doctor/midwife that worked with my instead of trying to get me on a bed for their convenience.
2. I would like a doctor/midwife that I know and trust to be available when I am delivering.
3. When I pushed, the doctor pulled the cart of utensils in the way of everyone that was in the room. I am not sure why he did this other than he was extremely uncomforable delivering a baby this way and maybe he did not want any witnesses if something went wrong??
4.The baby was taken from me shortly after birth for antibiotic eye drops, vitamin K injection, bath, etc. - I'd like more bonding and less intervention.
5. I would like to be IV free. I was hooked up to an IV when admitted and given pitocin to help deliver the placenta. This is standard and unnecessary.
6. I would like skin to skin contact instead of the baby put under a warmer.
7. I would like to EAT and DRINK if I wish. I am not sure how hungry I would even be but I do like to have nourishment and fluids when I am working that hard!!!
8. I am not a fan of the restrictions of the hospital. I would like to sleep when tired uninterrupted.
9. I would like to be cared for by someone that is passionate about their job.
10. I would like to be encouraged and challenged to be truly healthy during my pregnancy.
This experience with a midwife has been totally different. She comes to my house and has gotten to know everyone even the dog! She stays for 45 min to an hour. I learned more about pregnancy, labor, birth, etc in just a few visits than I had with the prenatal care of my first 2 children combined. She is so knowledgeable-she has delivered (naturally) over 1,000 babies!! Prenatal care is also not nearly invasive. I had one lab draw for blood, my blood sugar test was done at home after a normal meal, and I have yet to be checked-you know where.